June 19, 2009 6 out of 29 cases that day was about RA 9262. This is an issue, much like domestic violence. I'm in the courtroom awaiting for my turn. Every case about the RA 9262, I would secretly glance at both parties trying to pinpoint who the real victim is, but to no avail. I would focus my attention to those men as I imagine them behind bars for at least a day or two prior posting bail. Most of them only with one or two alleged violations of RA 9262, I was cited for four different offenses. Gladly my case was referred to mediation, and thereafter we reached settlement with my ex-wife.
RA 9262 is a criminal offense, and with that, you'll be jailed pending the resolution of your case. While this is bailable, surely the experience will haunt you forever. Now 6 out of around 20 men in that courtroom have been to jail for RA 9262, each of them needs to bail for their temporary liberty, liberty of their physical body but not of anguish that they are yet to bear with the case pending. The litigation fees, the alimony etc, will be next to haunt you besides the fact that you don't have a family to call now. You are alone men, you are doomed. You are hereby declared homeless and without money to even sustain a decent living.
Our cases may differ but I call on men to unite as this cause is for us. We've been empowering women for the past century that it now haunts us. The state should protect all its citizen regardless of gender, race or economic status. The Garcia case (as feminist groups call it) is still awaiting its decision from the Supreme Court questioning the constitutionality of RA 9262. I'm not after its abolition, rather for its amendment. We all need protection, not just women.
There's about a hundred studies about battered women and other domestic violence issues against women, but is it right to say that this does not happen to men or it's just that there's no study made about it as of yet? Just try google and there maybe about a thousand results all about women but only a couple for men. I joined a couple of internet forums just to see how Filipinos react about this issue on men being victims of domestic violence, and as I previously posted, I got about a couple of 'groups' discussing this issue. My conclusion still remains the same, we know it's happening, but we don't know how to react or counter it. Men still see fear of their wives as love not abuse and is often faced with ridicule instead of guidance. Anyone in an abusive relationship needs to seek help asap. We don't need to throw all our men to jail if they happen to be abusive, or they can't pay alimony or child support. What we need is support from the government instead of laws penalizing this and that.
Why not create a department who will handle all issues of domestic violence composed of professionals who can REALLY help instead of encouraging our women to seek legal remedies right away? Let those abusive men AND women go to counselling together or independently. If the state won't let us file divorce as they are clinging on to this 'sanctity' of marriage, then, for every Juan's sake, assist them go to counselling. Seeking legal remedies right away seems expediting the process of ruining the family. This is like saying 'send your husband/partner to jail first then reconcile after'. If your wife sent you to jail would you want to go kiss and make-up again? I don't think so.
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yes. i am also a vicitim of this "incredulous" law (ra9262). it is absolutely biased, unfair, unjust towards men. am also looking at ways to help repeal (better yet, scrap) this law. i am in davao city. there is another website by atty sison that is also against this law. i am happy to find your website.
thats right! why only for women, how about us men? where is our protection to the abusive wives???
I agree with you that RA 9262 should be amended or replaced entirely by a new law with provisions for the protection of both sexes. Men are not always the culprit in domestic violence, they can become victims as well.
napaka-unfair na batas na ito.. panu kung naset-up lang pala ako. para iwaive lahat nang gusto nyang iwaive gaya nang mga pagkakautang at iba pa. wala kaming laban, kahit self inflicted man ung ginagawa nya or fabricated mga sinasabi. wala talaga kasuhan ka parin, so unfair. kulang naman sa justification itong batas na ito bago ipinasa at naging batas. bakit ganun...
Patingin ninyo muna ang utak ng mga lalake.Baka unconsciuosly nananakit kayo emotionally at psychologically.Dapat may psychological exam muna before marriage at pre-nuptial agreement.Mga salbahe talaga kayong mga lalaki.
I suggest that both men and women should undergo psychological exam before marriage to support that they can perform their marital duties. What's the most common reason for separation and annulment nowadays Hindi ba psychological incapacity?
i came across this blog accidentally. i was quite taken aback by the comments of the men.
my mother was a battered wife. she died from cancer in december 2009. even when she was still suffering from the physical pains... my father emotionally and physically abused her.
i believe that ra 9262 is not the sole solution to the problem of violence against women. i do not agree though that domestic violence is not a gender issue. please cite your statistics and take a look at your immediate environment.
please do not be so self-centered and defensive. ra 9262 is an outcry for the years that many women suffered in silence and shame. i am from tacloban city. i know hundreds of women who suffer violence and other forms of abuse including some students of mine who are even just at the courtship/engagement phase of their relationship. in fact, i have a student who ran away during summer because she with her mother and siblings were repetitively beaten by her father who is on leave/vacation from his work as a seaman.
men, the only way to deal with this law is to understand and know it. it is very stringent and aims to curtail any form of abuse from you against any woman with whom you had or have romantic relationships. just be objective about yourself. do not pray for the removal of this law... this will protect your daughters.
i personally do not want police men and other government authorities telling any woman that domestic violence is a family problem. I grew up looking for someone who could help my mother and all they said to me was, "Problema yan ng pamilya."
Men... just be more conscious and truthful. If in case some of you are undergoing abuses from the women in your lives, there are other laws that could protect you.
men before you married you know your obligation, if you want a new wife, file an annullment.. its ok for us women because kaya rin nami kayo palitan.. unfair that men and women agreed to get married and will suddenly left the wife and kids for another woman.. ok lang kung educated din na woman what if the woman is involved in illegal activities like swindling, drugs, smmuggling and carnapping??? a woman would asap want an annulment eh nagtago ang lalaki what does he want' he wants to ruin the name of the wife and the kids... u see gago kayo na mga lalaki
im also a victim of this unfair law.
any idea how much is the bail for RA 9262?
need help man from angeles city pampanga.
it should be revised.
yeah! its true, not only women are victims of violence, i am a female but i saw the difficulties of men also in this ra9262, men don't have protection in this law,some women's only using this law for their personal revenge because of their anger and hatred and sometimes to get money or anything they wanted... The government must be equal in any gender.
Hey ms.may 6,
bakit ba kasi habol kayo ng habol mga babae..
pagka-tapus nyo gumawa ng kasalanan, ibabaliktad nyo kaming mga lalaki.
I'm on the same situation.. I was charged of ra 9262 pero kht muinsan Dko sinaktan wife ko.. it was her who hurt herself pero ibinintang sa akn... Ngyn, Dko alam kung san ako kkuha ng pang piyansa.. bakit ganun ang batas.. bbae lng ang laging pinapanigan..
mga walang kayong mga lalake kapag ayaw nyo na sa babae ibabasura nyo na lang akala nyo laruan kaming mga babae!!! attend kayo ng hearing namin ng asawa ko sa imus rtc branch 22 sa april 17 2012 ang pangalan ng asawa ko ay alex agustin aquino
Sometimes men are abused lalo na pag ang asawa nila "bungangera"..everyday pag nagkita kayo walang tigil, may pera o wala. RA 9262 should be reviewed. Kasi minsan magbibigay ka ng pera sa asawa mo pang negosyo daw tapos wla kang nakitang negosyo. Ikaw work lang ng work tapos yong wife madjonh lang at baraha alam.... We should take a look of our men too.
Yes,I am a victim too. my office mate from the province wants to see our city, so I invited her to our city. But when we went home her family announced that their daughter had elopes with me and soon to be married....and the my whole life turned upside down,and after many years of psychological torture, I left her but then she filed a case 9262...when in fact I was the victim...but the court especially the lady fiscals and judges will only look at the side of the woman and wife ....and mostly they will give RA 9262 to lady fiscals and judges who will only see the woman side...I hope we could ask help for good lawyers to advise us on how we can counter the cases files against us men....who are also victims.
as a woman, i considered this article as good but thier some point of it that unfair to the men, I have known a friend who actually file this kind of case to his ex boyfriend/live in partner. She used this case to harass his ex boyfriend.
Whoever wrote this blog, I totally agree with you. I hope I can talk to you soon. I havent done anything bad but still this case is giving me trouble with all her accusations.
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I'm a sister of a man who has been charged the ra9262, even as a woman, I do not agree to this law. How would we, women claim to be equals when all the time we are given a better hand, I am a single mother, but did I shout and claim and file such. I am not rich nor poor, but as soon as I know I was to have a child, I also have to make the decision and that no matter what happens I am going to live with the fact that I should be able to provide her needs. Physical abuse, yes, that is a valid case to file, but emotional abuse and psychological abuse, that is just extreme! My brother has a case where we are not even sure if the baby is his and the woman who is not even his wife is asking for more than what he can give. She claims we do not provide her support when in fact she does not even want to show the child to us. For Pete's sake, what is happening, do women just invoke their right to be trated and perceived as weaklings?! Pati ba naman gantong law naipapasa pa. Kund gusto nyo ng sustento, magtrabaho kayo, lahat ng bagay may paraan! Hindi lahat ng bagay, idedepende nyo sa lalaki.
Ask ko lang po mga Atty. kasi yung pinsan ko nagsampa ng case on me for slight physical injury and i was just protecting my wife and my mother, kasi nangyari po sumugod po siya sa house namin at nagsisigaw, pinapasok namin sa house namin para ndi magskandalo pag pasok sa house namin pinag duduro niya yung asawa ko at sinampal ng madaming beses at umaawat mother ko pati mother ko sinampal at sinipa , and naging initial reaction ko nasapak ko siya. ayun nagfile siya ng case against me tapos nabaliktad pa lahat ako pa daw nauna hayz. although nag pa blotter din kami kaya lang sabi nila baliwala daw ang tresspassing, physical injury at grave threat against r.a. 9262. and according po sa law kahit anong dahilan daw po kung bakit nasaktan yung babae kahit self defense yung lalaki pa din po ang kakasuhan at ikukulong. I just protected my family.
tama po ba yan?
So unfair! Some women uses this ra9262 para mamera, kawawa naman yung mga lalaki, laging talo
In my case, my partner's exwife filled a case against him, its ra9262..its year 2010 I think...sadly napabayaan nya..akala namin nananakot lang...tgen this year2014 kumuha sya ng nbi clearance only to find out na may warrant of arrest na sya..we are shocked..what do you think he can do? Wala sya work now because he cannot get nbi clearance, hindi sya makakilos because he dont have money para lakarin yung dapat lakarin.what he's doing is hiding, he cannot do any moves because he dont have any money,..I have this some questions, panu kung mahina ang evidence nya for this case, he dont have any documents, what will happen? Will he be in jail or pagkasunduin sila for child support, panu kung sabihin ng complainant na she dont need the support anymore? And all she wanted is makulong yung lalaki, will it be possible? Is she have power to say this? I dont have any idea...
I hate this law!
I'm glad we have this law ra9262 vawc this is great law for woman i applaud the filipino woman who put an effort to get this law implemented in 2004 good job "god bless " more power to you.
This lawa is supposed to be used against men to correct things, not to be abused by women.
Guys, please! Lets have a campaign regarding this. Nakakaawa naman kasi yung mga lalaking inaabuse sila lero sila pa tong nakakasuhan. May penalty din dapat sa mga babaeng binabaliktad yung katotohanan
The only way to get revenge is to women who abused their husband using this law is kill them
How can the person work if he has a record in his NBI because her wife filed an RA9262 case? Those men who have been experienced this and get convicted. Do they have derogatory in their NBI? How can they give support when they can't be accepted in the private companies?
nagsampa then ako nga case towards my spouse on RA 9262, but iba yong case namin kasi ako ang breadwinner ang family, binigay lahat nga gusto ng husband ko even giving him business because i am thinking that is good for the family but when he started to made a lot of money di ko alam kasama pala sa business niya na mangbabae siguro kasi may pera na siya...masakit isipin na ginawa mo lahat para sa pamilya tapos yon lang ang igagante nga husband mo...apat ang mga anak namin at puro maliit pa...di ko alam na pokpok lang pala ang katapat ko at nong nalaman namin ang lahat, lumayas pa sila at nagtanan at iniwan pa kami ni isnag kusing walang naibigay...di na inaatupag ang business kasi ibang business na ang ginawa...ngayon nalaman namin na nagsama sila at nagkaanak at enak -knowledge pa ng husband ko ang baby nila...dapat lang sa kanaya na matikman ang batas dahil sa kawanghiyaan niya na ginawa sa amin ng mga anak ko...case case to case then naman walang rason na di magsampa ang asawa kung sobra na talaga ang ginawa ng husband, ako apat na taon kong tiniis ang ginawa niyang pangbabae at pambabastos sa amin ng mga anak ko psychologically and emotionally, naghahap pa rin ako nga paraan para intindihin siya ngunit di na dapat pang konsentihin ang ginawa dahil sobra na din...
Magandang gabi po Anu po b pde nmin gwin ng asawa ko dhil kinasuhan xia ng dti nya kinasama at my dalwang anak sila ng pdla po sknya ng SUBPOENA case 9262 VAWC or non support dw po nag harap po sila ng march 13 at 20 nung march 13 po tinanung ang asaw ako kung mg counter affidavit xia sbi ng asaw ako opo dw dhilan nga po ng di nya pg bigay ng supporta e my rason nmn po xia kng bkt hindi xia nkpg bigay dhil ngkaskit xia at kasalan dn ng babae kng bkt kmi umalis s dti nmin tinitirhan at dting trabaho ng asawa ko
Nkkpg bigay nmn ang asawa ko sknya kht kulang dhilan dn s kakulangan ng sahod at bayad p nmin s upa at pang gastos pa kco ung babae msydo mkpg demand s asawa ko kht bgyan m lgeng my reklamo at pinag mumura p kme at pinag babantaan ng kng anu2
March 20 ng harap po sila ult pinasa po ung statement nya s prosecutor sbi po smin may mag mail nlng po ulit smin kng anung resulta ng case kng ma dismissed or iaakyat dw po s korte kng skali po maiakyat un wl po kming private atty pr idepensa kmi di n dw po kmi pde lumapig s PAO dhil nauna n dw po ung babae huminge ng tulong sknla...anu po b pde nmin gwin
San po b kme pdeng lumapit in case po wla po kz kming trabaho ngaun eh.... Nawa po mtulungan nyo kmi at mbgyn ng payo slmt po ulit and God bless
hello!
just discovered this blog.
I don't love my wife anymore. we have two kids. I found someone else. I love her. I really do. We've had a secret relationship for 3 yrs. Told my wife about this. I wanted to be honest to her & stop lying. Told her I wanted to be with the woman I truly love but I promise I'd still give support to our children. But my wife wont accept it. she is threatening to file a case against me using RA9262. From the looks of it, I think my wife will win & i'll go to jail. What should I do? If I go to jail, can I bail myself out? And im out on bail, does it mean I still cant see my woman? Pls help. All I ever wanted was to live free & love truly. If I go out of jail, do I have to come back to my wife? Even though I know in my heart who I truly love. Pls help. what should I do?
This law is not really about gender equality. It is biased to women. It is more like men has no equal rights. Hopefully, this will be amended the soonest. Not all women, deserve this law.
my case still on heard for physical abuse unfortunate 3 ng hinihingi ang orginal na medical certificate hindi nakkapag present ung nagdemanda.
Kaya nga dumadaan sa proseso ang mga nagsampa at naakisahan ng vawc kala nyo ba mabilis lang ang proseso dyan. Lahat kailangan may ebidensya at kung meron naman for sure ang hatol guilty si lalaki. Wag nyong sabihin na unfair nag law na to para sa mga kalalakihan. Isa akong complainant at hindi biro ang mga pinagdaanan ko at ng magulang ko. May proseso po ito at hindi mabilis inabot ng 3 years bago natapos. Kung sinasabi naman ng mga lalaki na unfair at may proof kayo sa husgado nyo ipakita likitison naman lahat ng evidences. Bilang babae nagpapasalamat ako na may ganitong batas hindi para sa sarili ko kundi para sa mga batang inabandona ng mga walang kwentang lalaki.
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